Why dog behavior is different than Human psychology and emotions
one of the biggest problems we have in this society is that human beings look at animals especially dogs dogs are a huge problem in an anthropomorphic way attributing human-like qualities to something that it’s not human I hear it all the time as a dog trainer my dog was jealous my dog loves me your dog doesn’t have any of these complex human emotions okay none and one of the biggest problems that we have is that animals are dying because of this this this common misconception that your your dog can experience love and hands like human-like emotions and it doesn’t I was just in a conversation with a friend of mine the other day about this she sort of conceded saying well no it’s not exactly like a human but they have similar like feelings but it’s not really true they can like you a whole lot okay dogs have the ability to bond you know dogs have oxytocin surges when you pet them just like a human and a human has oxytocin surges when they pet a dog human beings need that oxytocin for the mother to bond to the child make it easier to breastfeed the kid you know this is just one of those things that are similar with like all mammals but the problem is this you end up with unrealistic expectations of dogs there’s other animals too that there’s unrealistic expectations of there’s this misconception that whales and dolphins are psychic you know all this let them we could go up we could talk about elephants and a baby elephant dying and then the mother being confused and the the pack of elephants to herd not leaving the baby elephant and like you know human beings are like oh look they’re having a few for the baby no the hurt is confused okay and when they move on with it when the elephant starts to smell and they realize that they’ll just move on and go about their life they’re not going to sit there and ponder their thought they’re not gonna go back to that spot you know let’s go say goodbye to Dumbo it’s just it’s ridiculous and I just forward a post that I saw in a group it’s a typical post that I see all the time on social media and that’s that somebody has a kid and they have a dog and they let the kid climb all over the dog and they post pictures of this the dog on the and the kid on the couch climb oh you know fluffy loves little Johnny the dog going under the half under the bed and the kid going half under the bed photos like that you know laying against the dog and then now we’re seeing this person posting pictures of the kid and the ER because they were stupid they had this oh look the dog loves our kid the dog must love our kid now that there is no love first of all and the dog can only do one thing if you’re not going to step in and get the kid off the dog and that’s to correct the kid and that’s what the dog did the dog treated the kid like it was another dog and I’m not surprised because you you allow the dog to go up on the couch okay you’re screwing up the status of the dog treating it as an equal so of course it’s going to treat your kid as an equal by biting its head and that’s what happened we have a society of unrealistic people putting these unrealistic expectations on dogs the dog doesn’t experience love there is there is none of that okay they can bond definitely they can like a whole lot and that’s this conversation I have with the friend of mine just the other day it’s just like will they have something similar not really because love you think you think about the other person you’re in love with dogs don’t think they just respond that’s a fact then spot they respond instinctually and with train commands that’s why we train dogs ok when your dog is away from you it’s not thinking it’s not thinking if it won’t it won’t get depressed if it’s with somebody they don’t get depressed there’s no dog psychology that’s a term used to talk about the psychology between dog and man it’s not an indication that your dog has these abilities like a human negative abilities to to get depressed I’ve never met a depressed dog ok you’re talking to somebody that’s around dogs 24/7 I train dogs for a living I’ve never met one that’s depressed I’ve met depressed owners but never a depressed dog and people project upon their dog saying that they’re depressed you get them away from the owner there’s no depression there’s no psychological problems with dogs dogs do not commit suicide ok to put these unrealistic attitudes on you know and ideas upon something that is not human is absurd and you end up with 4 million dogs ok are put to death in the same amount we’re talking this is in the United States States 4 million people are bit every year half of that 4 million are children so just as many adults get bit as as children because unrealistic expectations oh I love the kid so my dog must love the kid we’re family now that’s not the way that it works that’s not the way that it works when you see these pictures on the internet of the kid climbing on the dog know that the person doesn’t know what they’re talking about and the dog is in danger you should not post anything oh that’s cute then perpetuate this myth that dogs don’t bite kids all the time bit they don’t like to be climbed on okay first of all kids are at a lower level they’re looking at him making eye contact with them smiling showing their teeth the sort of humans walking towards them usually the dog tries to get away but then after so many times that you know the owner does nothing and here comes the little kid again the kid gets bit that’s how it is I was bit as a child I was bit when I was about three or four we had a Frankie a dog named Frankie a wiener dog and my mother kept saying leave Frankie alone and I didn’t listen my mother was being a bad parent not getting me out of the situation or gettin Frankie outside so that’s usually how it happens or you know the owner the owner says to the kid leave the dog alone and then the owner gets distracted the adult and then the kid goes right back to what they were doing which is pestering the dog which is what I was doing you know it’s a wiener dog so it’s grabbing its tail I got bit I got bit and now I work with dogs but the point is to think that your dog has the ability to love is absurd it is it’s totally absurd your dog would have to be able to ponder thought and they don’t they do not ponder thought they respond they have a brain they do they have a brain and it works but their brain on a large dog is about the size of a lemon they don’t have the gray matter to be able to have all these emotions that’s something whether it works don’t eat their own kind okay and not even think anything about it a mother bird will kick a baby bird out of a nest I’m not saying that human beings can’t be crappy to to their young they can but this is much more common in the animal world so to put this thing of like oh the mother bird loves the baby well it loves the one baby it didn’t love the other baby get out of here see what I’m saying you have got to be kidding me this is a ridiculous notion in our society that animals experience you know human human-like emotions they don’t when we talk about dogs we’re not talking about Coco the gorilla and Coco’s cat dying and Coco saying I’m a smoke okay we’re not talking about a gorilla we’re not talking about a champion if you’re gonna make comparisons that would be more appropriate than a dog it would it’s ridiculous to think that the dog loves you if you die your dog will just move on and you know that’s how it should be I know that this upsets people but I’m telling you my dogs I’m gonna say love me when I say they love me I mean they like me a lot they do they like me a lot watch some of my videos even even dogs said don’t spit that are not my dogs like they like me a lot look at Jupiter Irrfan they let they love me but they don’t really love me they just like me a lot you can’t have a kid in a dog if you if you have a dog and then you have a kid you better start changing the way that you deal with that dog okay because that kid that dog is not going to love your kid and it doesn’t love you do you see the point that I’m trying to make they respond the kids climbing on the dog the dog fights the kid and then the dogs put down because you have this unlit unrealistic expectation your dog might be fine with your kid but your kid’s friend might get bit and that happens a lot too because the dog is not bonded to the kids – the kids friend it’s looked as an interloper in the pack and you treat the dog as if it’s an equal it’s not an equal and you should always be sending that message to the dog that you know keep it status all four on the floor don’t get on the furniture if you have a kid you better be training your dog if you don’t have a kid and you don’t want to train your dog then you’re just a bad owner okay if you have a kid hey and you don’t train the dog then you’re a bad owner and a bad parent you’re putting the kid in harm’s way and it doesn’t matter if it’s a chihuahua or a German Shepherd it’s very rare that I see so usually it’s like I’m thinking of this one dog trainer that I know and she’s got a kid and a dog she trains the dogs daily and make sure that the kid is involved in the training that’s what you have to do but just to say well we want a dog walking around the house that’s her dog she loves us she loves in here you sound like a moron to me you know your dog does not love you okay your dog can never experience those emotions that you experience they can like you a lot and that’s it and know that about your dog is that they can read certain things about human beings they can read when you’re happy and when you’re pissed off and that’s about it do you understand what the difference is it’s like if you’re talking to a human being you can you can sort of gauge them and read a wide variety of mosha emotions that they have you know you’re communicating with them you’re talking to them you’re getting all this information and when it comes to a human being and you can when you do that you’re also doing that on the same level the human being is like you you can you can relate I’m telling you you can’t relate to the dog because you don’t know because you have such unrealistic expectations you think you look at that dog with those big soulful brown eyes and you think well how could it not love me well I’m telling you it can’t okay then if you have a kid you better watch out the Internet is littered with pictures of people climbing on the dog you are the children climbing on the dog and it’s also littered of you know littered with pictures of kids that get bit and I’ll tell you something when you see that picture of the little baby the toddler climbing on the pit or the German ship whatever it is the dog I’ll tell you what a lot of those dogs aren’t in that house anymore okay so know that a lot of those dogs end up getting put down you see the pictures of how the dog loves the kid but for the most part people aren’t going to post pictures of their kid they got their ass kicked by the dog for a reason because they feel stupid and I’m telling you as a dog trainer and somebody that understands animals implicitly I’m telling you your dog cannot experience human emotions because it’s non-human it’s very very little about the dog or the bird or whatever animal you want to pick is like you because our brain is so huge it is it’s totally different so wake up you got a kid you better start training your dog and you better start separating the kid from the dog and if the dog is out and you have a you have a toddler or five year old whatever you better monitor the situation if you have the dog in the backyard with the kid and you leave for a second you are a bad dog owner and a bad parent I’m sorry you better stay up on it I get calls all the time I’m telling you I get calls all the time about people that are just this unrealistic I’ll tell you that one of the most common things that I see this is a phenomenon that like is just crazy to me it’s a fact somebody gets a puppy okay a couple a man and a woman can a puppy right about 1 year later they’re having a baby I don’t get it it never goes well the dog ends up either being put in the backyard or the dog is you know sent off to a shelter or ends up getting put down they have the dog from that point from you know seven weeks or whatever – when they have the baby in that period of time there’s very little training going on or there’s improper training or no training at all then they have the baby then they expect the dog to love the baby like they love the baby doesn’t work like that statistics tell us that it doesn’t work like that and if you think that any of these human emotions you know are the same in your dog no I’m telling you anything that you see love jealousy any of these human emotions that you think you’re seeing in your dog that’s dog behavior and it has something to do with something completely different resource guarding domination there’s a bunch of different things that it could be it’s not love and it’s not jealousy okay I’m sorry leave your comments below I know that there’s going to be people that are gonna be very upset with me saying this and they’re gonna say mean things about your dogs probably hate you my dogs like me a lot okay I live with the animals 24/7 I’m around animals more than I am human beings animals like me a whole lot okay so think whatever you want but my whole life centers around animals so you should listen to what I’m saying and heed warning be very very careful your dog is not human it has teeth it can crush your kid’s skull it can be very very careful training is the lifetime of your dog get on it now if you want to keep the dog know that the dog should not be a playmate for your child